Friday, June 8, 2012

Learning Our Own Responsiblity For Our Anger

Thich Nhat Hanh writes : 'If your house is on fire, the most urgent thing to do is to go back and try to put out the fire, not to run after the person you believe to be the arsonist. If you run after the person you suspect has burned your house, your home will burn down while you are chasing him or her. That is not the action of a wise person. You must go back and put out the fire. When you are angry, if you continue to interact with or argue with the other person, if you try to punish him or her, you are acting exactly like someone who runs after the arsonist while their home goes up in flames.'

This was from his book: Taming the Tiger Within-Meditations on Transforming Difficult Emotions. Part 1 is 173 pages about anger, recognizing our anger, accepting our anger, nurtuiring it with mindfulness and learning care and compassion for ourselves and others through our anger. This passage was highlighting that we are the ones responsible for our anger. Its so easy to pass the blame to someone else and say 'well he did that, or she said such and such, and that is why I am angery.' But a lecture hall of other people could witness the same event and be calm and at peace. It is not the other person who is to blame. No one is to blame. We much just recognize that we live with our own anger all the time. It is inside us. We must become aware of what our triggers are so that we can learn how not to over react, how not to fill our minds and bodies with all that toxic energy. How to be able to feel calm and mindful and in awe of the gift of being able to experience such a powerful emotion as anger, and as always to be able to let go, and move on and take care. =)

Much love to you all, even if that love was like a phenoix, fist created out of the ashes of anger.

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